READ THIS: A Place of Yes by Bethenny Frankel

We love positive thinking, and in fact, when we have an experience that we don't think we have anything good to say about, we don't say anything at all.  To that end, we truly admire and appreciate all of Bethenny's rules in A Place of Yes and her overall philosophy.  Her direct manner and ability to cut to the chase with her ideas and ideals make Bethenny an both an effective leader and a bit of a sage as well beyond merely the words she dictates.  She clearly is someone that goes about life in general with her eyes open, her mind open, and that is why opportunities are open to her.   Do not settle for what does not work.  Question yourself: What is genuine and true for you?  As we stop at each of her points that will get you to A Place of Yes, you'll learn a lot about Bethenny that perhaps you did not know and it could not have been easy to unearth some of these points in her life-we commend you for your honestly Bethenny.  


We like a lot of what she says here...here are some of her best words of wisdom:
"Don't seek out normal.  Seek out functional.  Seek out successful.  Seek out happy."
[Act On It] "Here is where attitude is everything-nothing is ever wasted on the fearlessly curious."
"Everything you do can lead to something else if you are ready for it, and you may have only one chance to knock it out of the park, so go with your passions and do your best until it just doesn't make sense anymore."
"When you regret something, what you aren't seeing is that someday, later, or maybe sooner, you're going to see why you didn't get the thing you wanted.  So often, something better is just around the corner."


Believe in Yourself and you will be living in A Place of Yes.
Lose your noise and embrace your voice: read A Place of Yes by Bethenny Frankel!  We Highly Recommend it.  And Bethenny and Jason, when you are looking for that new little restaurant where "nobody" goes, perhaps it is a place we have reviewed-see Peachy's Picks!


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RULES FOR GETTING WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE 

From A Place of Yes by Bethenny Frankel 

Rule #1 – Break the Chain 

Your past happened, and it’s part of you, but you don’t have to carry forward the bad habits, bad feelings, and ideas about who you are from that point of your life. Break the chain and celebrate coming into your own as an adult who is in control of your own life. What happens from here on out is entirely up to you. 

Rule #2 – Find your Truth 

Only you can know who you want to be, what you want out of life, and what the right path for you could be. Investigate yourself, your true desires, what feels right to you. Listen to your gut and celebrate who you really are, apart from anyone else’s expectations. Knowing your truth will make every decision in your life easier. 

Rule #3 – Act on It 

You make things happen. Don’t wait for someone else to make them happen for you. Act on your beliefs and instincts and the things you know about yourself. Don’t just sit there – do something. Forward is always the right direction, even if you aren’t sure where you are going, as long as you act with integrity from a place of yes. 

Rule #4 – Everything’s Your Business 

You never know what could become your next big break. Do everything to the best of your ability, give every job your all, and treat everything like it’s your business. Respect others, play fair, do what feels right, and always keep both eyes open for what might be your next great path. That way, you won’t miss an opportunity. 

Rule #5 – All Roads Lead to Rome 

You won’t always know what’s over the horizon, but you will get somewhere good if you stay focused on what you want. Even when something bad happens, you’re likely to see why it happened later. Everything you do leads to something else, and in the end, if you stay on your path, you’ll get to the place you wanted to be – even if it isn’t what you expected. It’s probably going to be even better. 

Rule #6 – Go for Yours 

You have to get what you want before you can have the inner resources to give to others. Clarify your goals and then go for them. It has to be about you first. It’s not selfish. It’s common sense. It’s the only way to be whole. 

Rule #7 – Separate from the Pack 

To find your calling or succeed in the one you’ve chosen, sometimes you have to step out of the crowd and remember who you are. You’ll distinguish yourself, and you’ll have a much better view of where you are going. When the way gets crowded or obscured, stand up, step forward, and move away from the masses. 

Rule #8 – Own It 

Keep your word, act on your beliefs and whether you regret something or not, always own up to it. You did it. Admit it, even when it’s hard. It’s the only way to maintain and build your integrity, not to mention your good reputation. You’ll never have to regret that you didn’t cop to the truth, and owning it always turns out for the better in the long run. 

Rule #9 – Come Together 

When all is said and done, life is about connection. You will have to, and you will want to, come together with others. They may be work colleagues or family or the partner you’ve chosen to share your life with. No matter who they are, get yourself right first and then you’ll be able to come together to do something even greater together. 

Rule #10 – Celebrate! 

Life is precious. Love is precious. Celebrate the many good things you have instead of focusing on the troubles, and you’ll find success, inner calm, and happiness at last. 

Celebration is life’s frosting. If you’re not enjoying it, what’s the point? 

ABOUT BETHENNY FRANKEL 

Author, natural foods chef and television personality, Bethenny Frankel has been making healthy food taste delicious for years. Cooking started as a hobby, and with formal training, quickly developed into a passion. Frankel attended the Natural Gourmet Institute for Health and Culinary Arts, where she focused on how she wanted to share her food knowledge and enthusiasm for healthy living. Her knack for making health accessible has elevated her to national prominence as a celebrated natural food chef, the creator of the phenomenal Skinnygirl Margarita, and a New York Times bestselling author. 

Frankel’s wit, wisdom and humor first came to national attention when she was named first runner-up on NBC’s The Apprentice: Martha Stewart. Network executives saw a personality they couldn’t ignore and put her center stage weekly on Bravo’s hit series The Real Housewives of New York. She emerged as the star of the series, which led to her 2010 spinoff Bethenny Getting Married?. The premiere had the highest ratings of any series debut in Bravo history with over 2 million viewers. She is currently shooting a second season of her Bravo show, now titled Bethenny Ever After, to premiere early in 2011, and she was recently a finalist on Skating with the Stars on ABC. 

Frankel shares her recipes, tips, thoughts and more through many different mediums, including two New York Times Best Sellers, Naturally Thin (2009) and The Skinnygirl Dish (2010). The Skinnygirl Dish showcases Frankel’s renowned “fix-ology” - her gift of taking calorie-rich foods and making them over to create healthier versions without compromising the taste. Frankel’s third book, A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, is due out in March 2011. 

As the creator of the widely successful Skinnygirl Margarita, a bottled, pre-mixed 100-calorie beverage made with clear tequila, Frankel plans to expand the line to other cocktails and beverages using her “fixologist” formula. 

As the go-to-writer for all things reality and lifestyle, Frankel wields her pen like a sword, ensuring that readers will get the unvarnished truth, along with common sense, expertise, and an always healthy dose of humor. Appearing regularly on The Today Show, as well as on the pages of Health Magazine and OK! Magazine, she is on a mission to democratize healthy living… making information available to everyone she can reach. 

Frankel currently resides in New York City with her husband Jason, daughter Bryn and dog Cookie.